Recommended
Book List
I
have listed several books that I recommend to improve relationships, decrease
depression, anxiety and stress, assist in the recovery from sexual abuse and
increase mental well being.
Depression
Mind
Over Mood: Change How You Feel by Changing the Way You
Think
By
D. Greenberger and C. Padesky
This book is extremely helpful for those who are overwhelmed by depression or
negative thinking. It describes how to change destructive thoughts and emotions
and how to solve problems interfering with your relationships. Whether you
choose to read special sections, complete the troubleshooting guides or read
the hint boxes, you will be pleased by the results.
The
Depression Workbook: Guide for Living with Depression and Manic Depression
by
M.E. Copeland
The author is a manic depressive who developed a
systematic approach to help herself cope with her illness. She clearly
describes a step by step self help prescription for empowering oneself toward
healing the emotional pain. If you take the time to complete the charts, you
will find yourself liberated from debilitating moods; soon your self awareness
and attitude toward life and self will be enhanced.
Reinventing
Your Life : How to Break Free from Negative Life Patterns and Feel Good Again
by
Jeffrey E. Young, Janet S. Klosko, Aaron T. Beck
This is an easy self-help manual for discarding unproductive behaviors. It
facilitates your understanding and awareness of the development of "lifetraps," and more important, how to break self
defeating habits. Many have reported how helpful this book has been in
improving their behavior and attitude toward life.
Infidelity
Infidelity:
A Survival Guide
by
Don-David Lusterman
Whether or not a troubled couple chooses to stay together, Lusterman
says the best outcome is when both partners experience changes and new insights
into their lives. He provides several case studies in which couples began to
regain their trust through new communication and instructs on the kind of
feelings-expressing language that can help.
When
Your Lover Is a Liar: Healing the Wounds of Deception and Betrayal
by
Donna Frazier (Contributor), Susan Forward (Reader)
Betrayal goes way beyond sexual affairs to include a host of lies and secrets.
“When Your Lover Is a Liar” is an outstanding guide for helping women reduce
the trauma of such interpersonal violations, choose a direction and rebuild
their sense of self.
After
the Affair : Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When a Partner Has Been
Unfaithful
by
Janis Abrahams, Pad Spring, Michael Spring
A leading therapist and expert on infidelity offers emotional support and
proven strategies to help couples overcome one of the most devastating events
in any committed relationship. “After the Affair” is the first book to help
readers survive this crisis and guides both the hurt and unfaithful partners
through the stages of grief.
Women
Who Stay With Men Who Stray: What Every Women Needs to Know about Men and
Infidelity
by
Debbie Then
A top psychologist and veteran journalist explains why men cheat, how this behavior
affects marriage and what a woman can do to survive this humiliating situation.
Secret
Lovers: Affairs Happen...How to Cope
by
Luann Linquist
This intriguing book takes a new look at what really
happens in affairs--how they begin, the stages they go through and why they
break up. This is a fascinating and rare glimpse at this secret side of life.
Chapters such as "Healing" disclose essential guidance for coping
with the sophisticated and secret complexities of extramarital affairs
Stress, Anxiety, Shyness
Thoughts
and Feelings: Taking Control of Your Moods and Your Life: A Workbook of
Cognitive Behavioral Techniques
by
Martha McKay, P. Fanning, and M.Davis
This is a workbook that describes simple stress
reduction techniques. Systematic Desensitisation,
stress inoculation, visualization, combating distorted thinking are only a few of the many helpful techniques that are
described in this workbook.
The
Relaxation & Stress Reduction Workbook
by
Martha Davis, Matthew McKay, and Elizabeth Robbins Eshelman
The well-organized chapters on breathing, relaxation, meditation, thought
stopping, and body awareness guide the reader through copious self-help
techniques to try and, eventually, master. Other chapters, including job stress
management, goal setting and time management and assertiveness training, focus
on daily scenarios people often find distressing.
The
Anxiety & Phobia Workbook
by
Edmund J. Bourne
This book excels not only in explaining the cause and nature of anxiety
disorders and phobias but also in describing treatments. This is truly a
"workbook," with exercises designed to facilitate recovery, either
through private use or in conjunction with professional therapy.
Beyond
Anxiety and Phobia: A Step-by-Step Guide to Lifetime Recovery
by
Edmund J. Bourne
Beyond Anxiety and Phobia provides an array of
alternative strategies for entering this long-term healing mode; describes
alternative therapies such as herbs, yoga, massage, acupuncture, and
homeopathy; and addresses the impact of perfectionism and other personality
issues.
Anxiety,
Phobias, & Panic : A Step-by-Step Program for
Regaining Control of Your Life
by
Reneau Z Peurifoy
The book teaches numerous exceptionally effective techniques for regaining a
sense of control and self-efficacy. These include establishing a daily routine
of decompressing, cognitive monitoring, desensitisation,
visualisation, tips on overcoming perfectionism and
the excessive need for approval and control.
Panic
Attacks Workbook: A Guided Program for Beating the Panic Trick
by
David Carbonell
Dr. Carbonell offers a complete self-help recovery
program that includes the use of panic diaries, desensitisation
and cognitive therapy. He makes clear how panic attacks work and what to do if
you have one, provides specific self-tests and exercises that will help you
begin to heal yourself right away
Dying
of Embarrassment: Help for Social Anxiety & Phobia
by
Barbara Markway, Cheryl N. Carmin
(Ph.D.), C. Alec Pollard, Teresa Flynn
This book is amazing. It truly holds the key to unlocking the door that social
phobia bars shut. It works as a workbook, allowing you to write in your own
stress management and anxiety charts, fears, goals, and a step by step guide on
how to face those fears, overcome them, and literally better your life. This
book is great for anyone who has even the slightest phobia's about meeting new
people or even self doubt, low confidence, or even to improve your social
skills for everyday life.
The
Shyness & Social Anxiety Workbook: Proven Techniques for Overcoming Your
Fears
by
Martin M. Antony, Richard P. Swinson
A truly excellent resource! This book is full of valuable exercises for
challenging the irrational thoughts and avoidance behaviors that fuel social
anxiety. There are many creative examples of how one can confront and overcome
social and performance fears in a gradual and manageable fashion
Relationships
A
Couple's Guide to Communication
by
John M. Gottman
This book's suggestions are backed by years of clinical research on how
thousands of couples communicate and presents the strategies that worked best
for them. This book gives practical step by step knowledge of how to
communicate with your partner and the little snags that you run into day by day
without even knowing it.
The
Relationship Cure: A 5 Step Guide to Strengthening Your Marriage, Family, and
Friendships
by
John M. Gottman
This book shows how the simplest, nearly invisible
gestures of care and attention hold the key to successful relationships with
those we love and work with." William J. Doherty, Ph.D.
The
Power of Two
by
S. Heitler and P. Singer
Whether you are learning as a couple or are in therapy, you will be delighted with
the clear curriculum for improving communication, listening, decision making,
conflict resolution, and enhancing intimacy, respect and growth as a vibrant
couple. “The Power of Two” uses an approach that reaffirms a balanced
partnership where each identity thrives instead of becoming submerged.
The
Seven Princples for Making Marriage Work
by
John M. Gottman
According to most relationship books, the key to a solid marriage is
communication, communication, communication. Phooey, says John Gottman, Ph.D., author of the much-lauded Why Marriages
Succeed or Fail. There's much more to a solid, "emotionally
intelligent" marriage than sharing every feeling and thought, he points
out--though most couples therapists ineffectively (and expensively) harp on
these concepts.
Loss and Grief
I'm
Grieving As Fast As I Can : How Young Widows and
Widowers Can Cope and Heal
by
Linda Sones Feinberg
An excellent book about the grieving process.
How
to Go on Living When Someone You Love Dies
by
Therese, A., Ph.D. Rando
A compassionate and practical guide to surviving the
loss of a loved one.
Healing
After the Suicide of a Loved One
by
Ann Smolin and John Guinan
The authors address the special needs and emotions of the survivors--those
affected by the suicide of a loved one--explore the natural grief, and the
added guilt, rage, and shame that dealing with a suicide often engenders. Includes a directory of worldwide support groups.
Male Survivors of Sexual Abuse
The Courage to Heal: A Guide
for Women Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse. by Bass, E., and Davis, L., Harper & Row, 1988
Written
for women, but helpful for men as well
Our Sexuality: Seventh Edit
ion.
By Crooks, R. & Baur, K.,
Brooks/Cole Publishing Company, 1997. Estrada, H., Red Rabbit
Press, 1994
Recovery for male victims of child sexual abuse,
Abused Boys-The Neglected Victims of
Sexual Abuse.
By Hunter, Mic,
Fawcett Columbine, 1990
"Sexual Assault of Men in the
Community."
By Isely, P., & Gehrenbeck-Shim,
D., Journal of Community Psychology. 1997.
Speaking out the truth: Voices of courage
and healing for male survivors.
By King, N., Harpercollins,
1995
Victims No
Longer-Men Recovering From Incest and Other Sexual Child Abuse.
By Lew, Mike, Harper
Row, 1990
The Male Survivor: The Impact of Sexual Abuse.
By Mendel, Matthew, Sage Publications, 1995
Males at Risk: The Other
Side of Child Sexual Abuse.
By Morris, A. MacEachron, Sage Publications,
1989
Male Survivors: 12-Step Recovery Program.
By Sanders, Timothy, Crossing Press, 1991
Male on Male Rape: The
Hidden Toll of Stigma and Shame
By Scarce, Michael, . Insight Books, 1997
Men Surviving Incest: A Male
Survivor Shares the Process of Recovery.
By Thomas, T.
Launch Press, 1989
The Armless Maiden: And Other tales for
Childhood's Survivors.
By Winding, Terri, ed., Ton Books, 1995